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I. What Community Members Need to Know
II. Conducting a Community Notification
III. Managing Sex Offenders
IV. The Role of the Community
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Section 1: Lecture Content and Teaching Notes
What Community Members Need to Know about Sexual Assault and Sex Offenders

55 minutes

Refer to Handout Symbol Refer to handout: Reducing the Risk of Sexual Assault Packet (You Can Protect the Ones You Love, Know the Rules: Just in Case…Personal Safety Tips for Teens, Personal Safety Tips for Kids and Parents, Knowing My 8 Rules for Safety). Cite or draw participants' attention to the Bureau of Justice Statistics report entitled Sex Offenses and Offenders: An Analysis of Data on Rape and Sexual Assault, 1997. The complete text of the report can be found among the Section 1 "participant materials" included with this curriculum.
New Topic IconTOPIC: TIPS ON REDUCING YOUR AND YOUR LOVED ONES' RISK OF SEXUAL ASSAULT
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One of the major reasons why it is important to be informed about sexual assault is so that you can take steps to prevent it. And, there are indeed steps you can take to reduce your risk of sexual assault, your child's risk, or the risk facing others. Right now we are handing out a packet of information that provides guidance to parents about protecting their children and what to do if their child is sexually assaulted, including how to promote a positive healing process. There is also a handout from a nationally known coalition of sexual assault programs (CONNSACS) to help teens and adults reduce their risk. Some of the central themes of the risk-reduction material in general and in your packet, include the following:

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Encourage the audience to ask questions about these protection strategies. While there is no learning activity to accompany this information, it is important to make this section as interactive as possible.

Refer to Handout Symbol Refer to handout: A Parent Books List is included among the participant materials for this section of the curriculum. Encourage participants to consider it a resource in talking with their children about sexual abuse in age-appropriate ways.

FOR PARENTS:

  • Inform children that it is wrong for adults to engage children in sexual activity.

  • Stress to your child that he or she should feel comfortable telling you anything, especially if it involves another adult. And that if your child does not feel comfortable being completely honest with you, then together you should find another trusted adult your child can talk to in confidence.

  • Make an effort to know the people with whom your child is spending time.

  • Knowledge is power. This is especially true for protecting children from sexual assault. Teach your children about their bodies, give them the correct language to use when describing their private parts. Emphasize that those parts are private.

  • Make sure you know where each of your children is at all times. Know your children's friends and be clear with your children about the places and homes they may visit. Make it a rule that your children check in with you when they arrive at or depart from a particular location and when there is a change in plans. You should also let them know when YOU are running late or if your plans have changed so that they can see the rule is for safety purposes and not being used to 'check up' on them.

  • Never leave children unattended in an automobile, whether it is running or not. Children should never be left unsupervised or allowed to spend time alone, or with others, in automobiles, as the potential dangers to their safety outweigh any perceived convenience or 'fun.' Remind children NEVER to hitchhike, approach a car or engage in a conversation with anyone in a car who they do not know or trust, or go anywhere with anyone without getting your permission first.

  • Be involved in your children's activities. As an active participant, you will have a better opportunity to observe how the adults in charge interact with your children. If you are concerned about anyone's behavior, take it up with the sponsoring organization.

  • Listen to your children. Pay attention if they tell you that they do not want to be with someone or go somewhere. This may be an indication of more than a personality conflict or lack of interest in the activity or event.

  • Notice when someone shows one or all of your children a great deal of attention or begins giving them gifts. Take the time to talk to your children about this person and find out why the person is acting in this way.

  • Teach your children that they have the right to say NO to any unwelcome, uncomfortable, or confusing touch or actions by others. Teach them to tell you immediately if this happens. Reassure them that you are there to help and it is okay to tell you anything.

  • Be sensitive to any changes in your children's behavior or attitude. Encourage open communication and learn how to be an active listener. Look and listen to small cues and clues that something may be troubling your children, because children are not always comfortable disclosing disturbing events or feelings. This may be because they are concerned about your reaction to their problems. If your children do confide problems to you, strive to remain calm, non-critical, and nonjudgmental. Listen compassionately to their concern and work with them to get the help they need to resolve the problem.

  • Be sure to screen babysitters and caregivers. Many states now have public registries that allow parents to screen individuals for prior criminal records and sex offenses. Check references with other families who have used the caregiver or babysitter. Once you have chosen the caregiver, drop in unexpectedly to see how your children are doing. Ask your children how the experience with the caregiver was, and listen carefully to their responses.

  • Practice basic safety skills with your children. Make an outing to a mall or a park a 'teachable' experience in which your children can practice checking with you, using pay phones, going to the restroom with a friend, and locating the adults who can help if they need assistance. Remember that allowing your children to wear clothing or carry items in public on which their name is displayed can bring about unwelcome attention from inappropriate people who may be looking for a way to start a conversation with your children.

  • Remember that there is no substitute for your attention and supervision. Being available and taking time to really know and listen to your children helps build feelings of safety and security.

  • Also remember that in the vast majority of cases (up to 90%), children are molested by someone they know. Your efforts at keeping your child safe must be informed by this fact and not focused exclusively on the danger that strangers may present.

FOR TEENAGERS:
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  • Adolescence is a scary time for children, and one in which they are most at risk for sexual assault. Prepare for the possibility that as adolescents, they may engage in some risk-taking behavior and try to minimize that risk by educating them about the danger of sexual assault by friends, acquaintances, or others. This danger is enhanced when teenagers are abusing drugs or alcohol.

  • Encourage your teenager to trust her or his instincts and if a situation makes him or her uneasy, to get out of it.

  • Stress to them that they can always talk to you if they have been hurt or scared (regardless of the circumstances surrounding the incident).

FOR YOU:
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  • Trust your instincts when you are with someone about whom you feel uncomfortable (e.g., in an elevator, in a car, in your home). This can be especially difficult for both children and adults who have been socialized to be polite.

  • Do not talk yourself out of feeling uncomfortable being alone with someone simply because he or she is an acquaintance or a friend of a friend-most sexual abusers are someone the victim knows.

  • Be wary of friends or dates that test your boundaries by making unwanted physical advances to you and then ignore or minimize your protests and other signs that you do not like their behavior.